I'm not good at it. I tend to do one of two things:
1. Internalize - this can consist of seething, grudge holding, ulcers, self loathing, eye rolling, and a plethora of other behaviors that get no resolution out of the situation.
2. Sarcasm - this is probably the most productive I get with my aggression. It consists of making snarky comments in front of and behind the back of the object of my aggression.
I heard a coworker this morning get really worked up about someone not doing what they were supposed to do. In a loud, commanding voice, they described the situation, described the effects of the situation, and described the outcome of the situation. I envied my coworker. I coveted their aggressive prowess.
I think I'll practice.
